Let me preface this blog by stating that I am merely one sex worker in an industry of diverse perspectives. Although sex workers have many shared experiences, we do not think alike on every issue. Some sex workers will fully agree with my thoughts, others will partially agree, and others will fully disagree. That is just the nature of discourse.
The purpose of my blog is to raise awareness of issues in an attempt to improve the working conditions for sex workers. I do not pretend to have all, or any, of the answers, but I strongly believe that it is only through collaborative discussion between clients and sex workers that we can improve the industry. Agreement is not necessary; however, respect and open-minded discourse is essential to achieve that goal.
As such, I must confess that I find it disheartening when I see clients and/or sex workers making fun of each other in the online world. If a client or a sex worker has a legitimate criticism of someone’s behavior then, by all means, discreetly bring the issue forward so that others can learn from the mistake; however, it is important to do so in a respectful manner. You will never change anyone’s mind by talking down to them and you will never alter inappropriate behavior by making fun of people. Disparaging humor might make someone feel better in the short-term; but, in the long-term, it is unproductive. It reinforces an adversarial relationship between clients and sex workers which will only make resolution of complex issues more difficult.
I have long believed that people should treat others the way that they would wish to be treated. In order to have a productive discussion about the issues in the sex industry, then it is essential to elevate the debate by establishing relations between clients and sex workers on a foundation of mutual respect.