coercion, culture of silence, review boards

A History of the Contemporary Sex Industry – Part II: The Rise of Independents

The contemporary sex industry rapidly transformed as a consequence of two technological innovations: the cell phone and the internet.  Although the cell phone provided sex workers the opportunity to work independently, it was the inception of the internet which sparked a sharp rise in the number of independent sex workers.  Prior to the internet, sex… Continue reading A History of the Contemporary Sex Industry – Part II: The Rise of Independents

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Why Many Sex Workers Find the Term “Hobbyist” Offensive

In the sex industry, many clients who self-identify as frequent patrons of sex workers use the term Hobbyist.  In truth, it is a term that many sex workers despise.  Please allow me to explain. Although some might argue that the term is innocuous, I disagree.  How someone labels something also affects how they treat something. … Continue reading Why Many Sex Workers Find the Term “Hobbyist” Offensive

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The Importance of Elevating the Debate in the Sex Industry

Let me preface this blog by stating that I am merely one sex worker in an industry of diverse perspectives.  Although sex workers have many shared experiences, we do not think alike on every issue.  Some sex workers will fully agree with my thoughts, others will partially agree, and others will fully disagree.  That is… Continue reading The Importance of Elevating the Debate in the Sex Industry

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The Ever-Changing Expectations in the Girlfriend Experience

When I first began in the industry, most sex workers offered safer sexual services.  With the inception of the internet, the public forum of escort review boards allowed clients to offer feedback to sex workers.  Clients wanted a more personal atmosphere and to be treated as though they were more than just a transaction.  This… Continue reading The Ever-Changing Expectations in the Girlfriend Experience

coercion, review boards

When Being Reviewed is NOT a Choice

Although sex workers disagree as to the effectiveness of review boards, all sex workers agree that being reviewed should be a matter of personal choice.  Because sex workers are diverse individuals, there are a variety of reasons why one might opt for a no review policy.  Some sex workers find public discussion of intimate moments… Continue reading When Being Reviewed is NOT a Choice

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The Rates of Individual Sex Workers Do Not Define Their Class or Self-Worth

There seems to be a misperception by some that the higher the rate that an individual sex worker charges, then the classier, the more refined, and the more educated the individual sex worker.  Now, that might be true in some instances; however, in other instances it is not. Because the sex industry is about perceptions,… Continue reading The Rates of Individual Sex Workers Do Not Define Their Class or Self-Worth

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The True Nature of Choice Within the Consensual Sex Industry

When I first began in the industry, sex workers had more choices.  Although many sex workers worked for controlling bosses at massage parlours, at the end of the day, they had control over their own body.  Massage parlours had established conventions which favoured safer sexual practices: condoms and dental dams for all services.  No exceptions. … Continue reading The True Nature of Choice Within the Consensual Sex Industry

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A History of the Contemporary Sex Industry: Part I – The Predominance of Massage Parlours

I became a sex worker in 2001.  When I began, massage parlours were the dominant player in my city because of a recent loosening of municipal bylaws which allowed them to operate more freely.  Street sex work still existed, of course, and there was both high track and low track.  However, as massage parlours became… Continue reading A History of the Contemporary Sex Industry: Part I – The Predominance of Massage Parlours