client behaviour, coercion, review boards

Do Sex Workers Work Within Their True Comfort Level?

When I first began working independently, I found it peculiar that clients asked which services I offered.  To me, the answer is self-evident: sex workers offer intercourse.  However, this is not what most clients want to know; instead, most clients want to know what extra services are offered in addition to intercourse.  These extras could… Continue reading Do Sex Workers Work Within Their True Comfort Level?

client behaviour, coercion, culture of silence, review boards

How the Disruption of the Internet Impacted the World’s Oldest Profession

The inception of the internet was a self-employment and consumer triumph and nowhere more than in the sex industry.  Prior to the internet, sex workers labored under the (oftentimes) controlling influence of managers/owners.  But now, sex workers could advertise their services directly to consumers.  Self-employment empowered sex workers to work from home, be their own… Continue reading How the Disruption of the Internet Impacted the World’s Oldest Profession

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Regarding the Increased Expectations for Time

When sex workers began working independently, clients could contact them directly.  When communication is done within a reasonable manner, it is a win/win scenario for both parties.  Clients want to feel comfortable with their choice of sex worker and sex workers want to feel comfortable welcoming a stranger into their home.  Some communication prior to… Continue reading Regarding the Increased Expectations for Time

coercion, culture of silence, review boards

A History of the Contemporary Sex Industry – Part II: The Rise of Independents

The contemporary sex industry rapidly transformed as a consequence of two technological innovations: the cell phone and the internet.  Although the cell phone provided sex workers the opportunity to work independently, it was the inception of the internet which sparked a sharp rise in the number of independent sex workers.  Prior to the internet, sex… Continue reading A History of the Contemporary Sex Industry – Part II: The Rise of Independents

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Why Many Sex Workers Find the Term “Hobbyist” Offensive

In the sex industry, many clients who self-identify as frequent patrons of sex workers use the term Hobbyist.  In truth, it is a term that many sex workers despise.  Please allow me to explain. Although some might argue that the term is innocuous, I disagree.  How someone labels something also affects how they treat something. … Continue reading Why Many Sex Workers Find the Term “Hobbyist” Offensive

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The Importance of Elevating the Debate in the Sex Industry

Let me preface this blog by stating that I am merely one sex worker in an industry of diverse perspectives.  Although sex workers have many shared experiences, we do not think alike on every issue.  Some sex workers will fully agree with my thoughts, others will partially agree, and others will fully disagree.  That is… Continue reading The Importance of Elevating the Debate in the Sex Industry

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The Ever-Changing Expectations in the Girlfriend Experience

When I first began in the industry, most sex workers offered safer sexual services.  With the inception of the internet, the public forum of escort review boards allowed clients to offer feedback to sex workers.  Clients wanted a more personal atmosphere and to be treated as though they were more than just a transaction.  This… Continue reading The Ever-Changing Expectations in the Girlfriend Experience

coercion, review boards

When Being Reviewed is NOT a Choice

Although sex workers disagree as to the effectiveness of review boards, all sex workers agree that being reviewed should be a matter of personal choice.  Because sex workers are diverse individuals, there are a variety of reasons why one might opt for a no review policy.  Some sex workers find public discussion of intimate moments… Continue reading When Being Reviewed is NOT a Choice

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The Rates of Individual Sex Workers Do Not Define Their Class or Self-Worth

There seems to be a misperception by some that the higher the rate that an individual sex worker charges, then the classier, the more refined, and the more educated the individual sex worker.  Now, that might be true in some instances; however, in other instances it is not. Because the sex industry is about perceptions,… Continue reading The Rates of Individual Sex Workers Do Not Define Their Class or Self-Worth